In Celebration of Our Sisters - International Women's Day 2018

International Day of the Woman in International Women's Month, is the perfect time to celebrate those we admire and have been inspired by. We asked you guys who the stand out Ladies are for you and as per usual you didn't disappoint with reasons or variety.

Audrey lorde, activist, British motherhood, black British motherhood, motherhood

Audre Lorde

When I dare to be powerful, to use my strength in the service of my vision, then it becomes less and less important whether I am afraid" -

Nominated by Tamu Thomas @motherhood_rx / @livethreesixty.

I love Audrey Lorde, she has a brilliant mind, a great combination of academic and creative.  When I read her work I can feel new pathways in my brain being created!  I admire anyone, particularly women, black women that speak their truth, the truth of others and use their skills to empower. This particular pieces speaks to me because at times I have struggled with the concept of being powerful, however recently I have found a calming  strength in focusing on the service of my vision, my why.  Focusing on my why and the way my vision can be of service is a good distraction from fear and great motivation to keep going.

Iyanla Vanzant, black woman magic, motherhood reconstructed, black British motherhood, bbmotherhood

Iyanla Vanzant

“People come into your life for a reason, season or lifetime” 

Nominated by Lisa Bent @selfcentral101.

I admire Iyanla Vanzant because what she has been through to where she is now just amazes me. She is a walking testament for doing the work and refusing to be defined by the situations life has thrown at you. 

Above is my favourite quote by her. It is from her book Acts of Faith, which I read in my early twenties. It really resonated with me and helped me to quickly understand that everyone who has been, and is in my life, is there for a reason; to teach, stretch and love me. As a result acceptance, appreciation and letting go is easier. 

The time could be anything from a moment, Autumn to Spring or years. I have learnt it is not the length but the quality and lesson that is important. 

I am not yet at my lifetime, but I have seen a number of seasons and as I look down the road of my 38 years of life, some of my friends have been there from the start, others have joined on the way and new people are joining all the time, accompanying me on my journey. 

As this is my life, my experience and my perspective, I am of course speaking from a place of people joining me, however I would like to think that for everyone who has joined me, I am also joining them on their journey to teach, stretch and love.

Nicola Rae Wickham, black British motherhood, black girl magic, a life more inspired, inspired living

Nicola Rae Wickham

"That ‘why’ is a place of excitement and joy. You get to go where your mission has been realised, where you are living the dream and making the impact"


nominated by Elliott Rae @mffonline

This quote is important to me as Nicola has helped me in my journey by helping me connect with my 'why' and for me as a mission driven person, my 'why' is what gives me purpose and happiness and what defines me. I'm fully in my why and getting close to living the dream and making the impact that I want in this world. On top of that Nicola is a supportive, loving, wise and consistent sister and (auntie to my little one) so I'd like to celebrate her this International Women's Day! 


Oprah Winfrey

“Surround yourself with only people who are going to lift you higher”-

Nominated by Sareta Fontaine @kikiblahblah.

As a self confessed people pleaser I previously had a lot of negative people around me. Negative people that only seemed to be around when they needed something. 

That’s not their fault per say, because I allowed it to happen. 

It’s mentally draining giving so much of yourself when there’s little or nothing in return, especially when it comes to close relationships. There should be a balance of give and take. 

When you surround yourself with positive people, who have similar goals whether physically, mentally or spiritually, you all become each other’s cheerleader. 

If they succeed, you succeed; there’s no jealousy or talking behind each other’s back. 

Surround yourself with positive people and your life will feel more enriched. If they’re winning, you’re wining! 

Shonda land, Shonda rhymes, HTGATM, black British motherhood, motherhood reconstructed, motherhood

Shonda Rhimes

"Happiness comes from living as you need to, as you want to. As your inner voice tells you to. Happiness comes from being who you actually are instead of who you think you are supposed to be"

Nominated by Sarah Jane Martins @beingsj

Approaching 40 prompted me to evaluate my life and tap into ‘the real me’ - everything changed 💫 Shonda’s book ‘Year of Yes’ is beautifully honest and this quote is a takeaway truth.

Margaret Expo, Igbo woman, womanhood, motherhood, motherhood reconstructed, black British motherhood, parenting, bbmotherhood

Margaret Ekpo

"I was 43 years old when I attended the Constitutional Conference; I was still young and beautiful. If I had done what most young women would do at my age, I would have left the Conference and gone shopping to buy fine dresses, shoes and bags, and I would have lost the opportunity to make such an impact by extracting the promise of Universal Adult Suffrage from my party Leader."

Nominated by Cee Olaleye @heyisthatme

Not a quote, in the conventional sense of the word, but she said it! 

As well as being a doyenne of Nigerian fashion, Mrs Ekpo was a political activist and vehement feminist, who encouraged and empowered other women to fight for their rights.  She was fully involved in the political emancipation of women in Nigeria and the Nigerian independence struggle.  She also knew she was cute.  If she was around today, she would be all over social media, generating hashtags left, right and centre, posting pics of her total slayage while banging the drum for equality and social justice.  My kind of woman.

bell hooks, intersectional feminism, activist, motherhood, black mum magic, motherhood reconstructed

Bell Hooks

“Black women have not focused sufficiently on our need for contemplative spaces. We are often ‘too busy’ to find time for solitude. And yet it is in the stillness that we also learn how to be with ourselves in a spirit of acceptance and peace. Then when we re-enter community, we are able to extend this acceptance to others. Without knowing how to be alone, we cannot know how to be with others and sustain the necessary autonomy.”

Nominated by Sarah Gregory @srosegregory

Bell Hooks for me carved out an unapologetic space for me to contemplate and reflect. In order to move on, and move people forward, I needed to silence the noise, tell fear I was in charge and shut down the anxiety. I will forever be a student, in awe of and a daughter of the yam.


Maya Angelou

"My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style."

nominated by Nicola Rae-Wickham @alifemoreinspired

I love everything about Maya Angelou and her work and words have had a huge impact on me. This quote is such a great reminder of all the elements of life. Especially when the daily slog starts to take over, this reminds you why you are here and what it is all about. 

Suhaiymah Manzoor-Khan, muslim woman, hijab, motherhood, international women day

Suhaiymah Manzoor-Khan

"Because if you need me to prove my humanity, I’m not the one that’s not human…"

Nominated by @whattheschujj.

This resonates because every single word is true. As a Muslim woman I am sick of apologising/ justifying the actions of a few. Having to prove I am just like you can be exhausting; I do not need to prove anything.

Maya Angelou, international women day 2018, motherhood, black lives matter, motherhood reconstructed, black British motherhood, bbmotherhood

Maya Angelou

"If you are always trying to be normal you will never know  how amazing you would be".

Nominated by Yonkel Chamberlain @yonkelc.

I love this quote .  It gives hope to those that are  outsiders  because  of their weirdness.

It confirms  that its ok to be different  and unique. They are the geniuses.

But most of all it speaks about appreciating  what and who you are. That you're  ok. And it would be a waste of a life trying to be something  that you are not. Which would be a waste and a hindrance to your self.

Which women inspire you and why?