“Self care for me is that MOT. It’s that timely check in. It’s securing any loose mental paving and taking the time to slot it right back into place, before I fall over it. I am not stringent about how self care is performed in my life. Any attempt at caring for self in this busy time we live in can only be positive. Some say its not a manicure or pedicure, it's not a night out or shopping. I say self care is anything we need it to be”.
“I think that it is very important for everyone to love their hair the way it is naturally because this says you love yourself just the way you are. It is especially important for black and mixed children to love their hair the way it is because it is part of us and we should be proud of ourselves the way we are”
Tola Okogwu is definitely part of the multi-hyphen career generation, she is a journalist, author, publisher, blogger and does all this whilst being a wife and mother to two small children. Tola's children inspired her to write books that demonstrate the beauty of Afro hair with Kechi's Hair Goes Every Which Way whilst broadening our ideas of gender roles in families in Daddy Do my Hair.
Today we spend a day with mother of two Rachel Osinaike aka “Grateful Rachel”. Rachel is a qualified teacher and has been successfully running a tuition centre since 2005. Rachel has written a book, “Bounce Back: Turning trials into Triumphs”. This book tells a story of victory against painful odds.
I chose my profession because…. I always wanted to be a journalist, and started out as one in 2000. The career I have today as an author and creative writing coach, has just kind of presented itself as I’ve gone along the path of self-development. I love how flexible it is, and that I can fit my passions around my family life.
Little Leaders is a very inspiring book that can enjoyed by anyone. This book inspires you to make great changes that can make the world better. All of the women in this book are very significant they changed things for black people and women of all backgrounds. When you first open the book and turn a few pages you will see information about MaryPrince.
If I could exchange my career for any career in the world it would be… because… I wouldn’t! I’ve made a massive career change, qualifying as a nutritionist after 15 years working in advertising and I truly love what I do!
As a Mother that is working and running a business what are your daily challenges? How do you manage the needs of your children, keep the business running and stay on top of your day job?
It’s a hard task and as my business is in its infancy stages, I’m encountering new challenges on a regular basis. Time is the main challenge and there not being enough hours in the day. It’s great to have a journal / diary which I do use but I’m learning the art of having Mummy, Carla, Babe, Cush, Sis, Carls, Miss and Coach Carla time lol! Wish me luck!!!
I’m sorry for those of you who got second, third, fourth, fifth or even sixth options - not ideal I’m sure, but at least you got something that you actually chose. Once again we got nothing and it’s shit!
I chose to study because… I wanted to finish what I started, and my degree is an opportunity to elevate my future and my family’s socio-economic status. Having said that I’m at a very creative and transitional point in my life and writing for me has been way more successful than I could have ever imagined. Unlike my degree I didn’t choose it to be sensible its very much a passion of mine.
I chose my career/ job because… I LOVE food, baking is my therapy, it helped me deal with PND while on maternity leave with Frankie, and I continued to slowly grow my business after I went back to work full time for a footwear company. When I was made redundant I decided to take the leap and through myself into cookie&biscuit and launch the V spot- plant based supper clubs and catering. Seeing people coming together over healthy and delicious meals, meeting new friends has deepened by passion for food. I can’t imagine doing anything else.
I, like many other parents, allowed motherhood to completely take over my sense of self. Who am I without my children? In that episode Iyanla explains that we all need to be selfish in order to be effective to those we love. ‘My cup runneth over, what’s in my cup is for me, what runs over is for everyone else’.
If I could exchange my career/ business for any career /business in the world I would be… A mortician. I am utterly obsessed with the idea of a ‘past life’ because… since my father died I’ve been left with a lot of questions. Also the folks at the funeral home he was at did a terrible job at presenting him in a manner I deemed as fit. Everyone should have nicer memories of their loved ones.
"I focus on quality and not quantity, sharing posts because I have new work to share or something to say. If you’re anxiously trying to think of something to post next, you’re lacking on the authenticity front and probably need to take a social media detox".
I chose my career because… It chose me. I was born to do it… It comes so natural to me. I’ve always wanted to teach, I have a way with children. I love that feeling when I know I’ve made a positive impact on a tiny mind. It’s the most satisfying job.. I’More stemmed from that. I know there are millions of problems in the world. There are also millions of people talking (complaining) about these problems. Then there are people that do. I’m defiantly a do-er....
That hour from the first alarm to getting up is my absolute favourite time, that glorious half asleep, duvet snuggle in the morning. Getting out of bed is the hardest part of my whole day. I know the best business people and life coaches et al advocate getting up early and being productive but I DON’T CARE! I wanna languish!
"...I think black mothers need to be bolder about putting their own voices out there too, whether that be through Instagram, Facebook, You Tube or even a blog, without necessarily having to dilute it for your audience. The more there are of us out here taking up space, the more collective noise we will make and the more people will have to listen to what we have to say. And it’s usually really interesting, btw".
I set my alarm for... It depends... also setting the alarm doesn't guarantee getting up.. Usually I set my alarm(s) for for 5:30, 5:40, 5:45 then press snooze until 6:40 and regret pressing snooze as the 'sleep' between 5:30 and 6:40 is total trash and I knew it would be each time I reached out and pressed snooze!
Wanita started off as a cashier and has worked her way up the corporate ladder without compromising herself. She is the type of person that cuts through the BS, rolls up her sleeves and gets on with it
My 8-year-old has adopted the sleeping habits of a teenager so getting her up for school takes a lot of effort. My 5-year-old is easily encouraged to get up with the promise of a hug (such a mummy’s girl).