I, like many other parents, allowed motherhood to completely take over my sense of self. Who am I without my children? In that episode Iyanla explains that we all need to be selfish in order to be effective to those we love. ‘My cup runneth over, what’s in my cup is for me, what runs over is for everyone else’.
If I could exchange my career/ business for any career /business in the world I would be… A mortician. I am utterly obsessed with the idea of a ‘past life’ because… since my father died I’ve been left with a lot of questions. Also the folks at the funeral home he was at did a terrible job at presenting him in a manner I deemed as fit. Everyone should have nicer memories of their loved ones.
"I focus on quality and not quantity, sharing posts because I have new work to share or something to say. If you’re anxiously trying to think of something to post next, you’re lacking on the authenticity front and probably need to take a social media detox".
I chose my career because… It chose me. I was born to do it… It comes so natural to me. I’ve always wanted to teach, I have a way with children. I love that feeling when I know I’ve made a positive impact on a tiny mind. It’s the most satisfying job.. I’More stemmed from that. I know there are millions of problems in the world. There are also millions of people talking (complaining) about these problems. Then there are people that do. I’m defiantly a do-er....
That hour from the first alarm to getting up is my absolute favourite time, that glorious half asleep, duvet snuggle in the morning. Getting out of bed is the hardest part of my whole day. I know the best business people and life coaches et al advocate getting up early and being productive but I DON’T CARE! I wanna languish!
"...I think black mothers need to be bolder about putting their own voices out there too, whether that be through Instagram, Facebook, You Tube or even a blog, without necessarily having to dilute it for your audience. The more there are of us out here taking up space, the more collective noise we will make and the more people will have to listen to what we have to say. And it’s usually really interesting, btw".
I set my alarm for... It depends... also setting the alarm doesn't guarantee getting up.. Usually I set my alarm(s) for for 5:30, 5:40, 5:45 then press snooze until 6:40 and regret pressing snooze as the 'sleep' between 5:30 and 6:40 is total trash and I knew it would be each time I reached out and pressed snooze!
Wanita started off as a cashier and has worked her way up the corporate ladder without compromising herself. She is the type of person that cuts through the BS, rolls up her sleeves and gets on with it
My 8-year-old has adopted the sleeping habits of a teenager so getting her up for school takes a lot of effort. My 5-year-old is easily encouraged to get up with the promise of a hug (such a mummy’s girl).
I definitely don’t feel guilty, I’ve travelled without her since she was 2 so for us it’s normal. And as I said we holiday together too so she doesn’t feel like she’s missing out. This is just the way it is…
She could 'pass', you know that horrible turn of phrase, she could pass for being 'white'. I've lost count of the many times I have been asked if I am my daughters mother, in her presence, accompanied by a look of shock.