I, like many other parents, allowed motherhood to completely take over my sense of self. Who am I without my children? In that episode Iyanla explains that we all need to be selfish in order to be effective to those we love. ‘My cup runneth over, what’s in my cup is for me, what runs over is for everyone else’.
"I focus on quality and not quantity, sharing posts because I have new work to share or something to say. If you’re anxiously trying to think of something to post next, you’re lacking on the authenticity front and probably need to take a social media detox".
"...I think black mothers need to be bolder about putting their own voices out there too, whether that be through Instagram, Facebook, You Tube or even a blog, without necessarily having to dilute it for your audience. The more there are of us out here taking up space, the more collective noise we will make and the more people will have to listen to what we have to say. And it’s usually really interesting, btw".
We talk about our truth, knowing we can't have it all but still giving it a damn good try. Sometimes I am in a room that is full and seems friendly but I am alone.
The notion of good vibes only and positive mindset can seem disingenuous because a) human emotions are varied and b) the implication is that uncomfortable human feelings should be ignored or 'pushed through'.
As a child of mixed heritage the world sees my daughter a little differently, slightly more equal, and at the age of 10 she is acutely aware of it.
When my son (formerly daughter) first told me he was transgender at the tender age of fifteen, I felt many things.
Self-care, in the form of good nutrition, rest and exercise is so important for mothers, especially in these crazy and uncertain times.
I am very open and frank with my daughter by involving her in every aspect of the business including discussing profit and loss so she can understand why things are somethings not how they used to be.
I now use the festive period to catch up with loved ones, eat loads of food, dance in my slippers, enjoy the big belly laughing and creating joyful memories.
Let me be absolutely real yeah?! Sometimes being a step mum sucks (let the judgement begin, I don’t actually mind).
I chuckled as I watched as this is so like Sareta's Insta life and true to real life! We hope you enjoy it as much as we did.
On the way to the National Portrait Gallery we missed our stop, because we were playing a game on Mum's phone...
She could 'pass', you know that horrible turn of phrase, she could pass for being 'white'. I've lost count of the many times I have been asked if I am my daughters mother, in her presence, accompanied by a look of shock.
This week promise to write yourself a love letter, but write it as if you are your best friend. Write to yourself with kind loving thoughts, celebrate your strengths and do not include any weaknesses or areas for development.
There was always a sense that it was too wild. That it needed to be tamed. That setting it free was the worst thing you could do, that it wasn’t very appropriate.
I realised that I could not raise a strong, independent and self-assured girl if I was a messed up mother.
Both of these projects are designed to give Black women the light and space required to display their creative talents with integrity. These projects are so beautiful, necessary and worthy of time I strongly suggest that you check them out.
If you know me then you know that although i'm not typically shy and tend to end up in random conversations with strangers and can absolutely hold my own in a group convo, I would definitely place myself in the wallflower area of life.
She inspires me every day to be the best version of me...
I went from not noticing my hair and being pretty much unaware of the colour of my skin, to being too black with hair that was bad
For International Women's Day we thought we'd ask you guys which women inspired you. Your responses are eclectic, inspirational and emotional and we expected nothing less.
My parenting skills definitely mirror my mother and grandmothers, quite old school West Indian I've been told.
t’s not a competition though, we are doing it for the activity value and to encourage you to engage in a long(ish) term project with your child(ren).
My daughter started talking about missing Sierra Leone and why she loves it... so I recorded it.
The thing about the family whatsapps is it will kill your memory because of the chain mail about scams taking place in every country except England. Yes mum I am referring to the South African scam alert you sent on Monday.