“Self care for me is that MOT. It’s that timely check in. It’s securing any loose mental paving and taking the time to slot it right back into place, before I fall over it. I am not stringent about how self care is performed in my life. Any attempt at caring for self in this busy time we live in can only be positive. Some say its not a manicure or pedicure, it's not a night out or shopping. I say self care is anything we need it to be”.
The book is called The Forgotten Forest. When the book arrived I was thrilled. Not only is the book beautifully illustrated the story is a delight!
“I think that it is very important for everyone to love their hair the way it is naturally because this says you love yourself just the way you are. It is especially important for black and mixed children to love their hair the way it is because it is part of us and we should be proud of ourselves the way we are”
Tola Okogwu is definitely part of the multi-hyphen career generation, she is a journalist, author, publisher, blogger and does all this whilst being a wife and mother to two small children. Tola's children inspired her to write books that demonstrate the beauty of Afro hair with Kechi's Hair Goes Every Which Way whilst broadening our ideas of gender roles in families in Daddy Do my Hair.
Today we spend a day with mother of two Rachel Osinaike aka “Grateful Rachel”. Rachel is a qualified teacher and has been successfully running a tuition centre since 2005. Rachel has written a book, “Bounce Back: Turning trials into Triumphs”. This book tells a story of victory against painful odds.
I chose my profession because…. I always wanted to be a journalist, and started out as one in 2000. The career I have today as an author and creative writing coach, has just kind of presented itself as I’ve gone along the path of self-development. I love how flexible it is, and that I can fit my passions around my family life.
If I could exchange my career for any career in the world it would be… because… I wouldn’t! I’ve made a massive career change, qualifying as a nutritionist after 15 years working in advertising and I truly love what I do!
I chose to study because… I wanted to finish what I started, and my degree is an opportunity to elevate my future and my family’s socio-economic status. Having said that I’m at a very creative and transitional point in my life and writing for me has been way more successful than I could have ever imagined. Unlike my degree I didn’t choose it to be sensible its very much a passion of mine.
I, like many other parents, allowed motherhood to completely take over my sense of self. Who am I without my children? In that episode Iyanla explains that we all need to be selfish in order to be effective to those we love. ‘My cup runneth over, what’s in my cup is for me, what runs over is for everyone else’.
I now use the festive period to catch up with loved ones, eat loads of food, dance in my slippers, enjoy the big belly laughing and creating joyful memories.
This week promise to write yourself a love letter, but write it as if you are your best friend. Write to yourself with kind loving thoughts, celebrate your strengths and do not include any weaknesses or areas for development.
t’s not a competition though, we are doing it for the activity value and to encourage you to engage in a long(ish) term project with your child(ren).
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